The life we live is who we are

I used to think the measurement of who you are comes down to your job status, how hard you worked, how well regarded you are, and how good a performer you are in the Company.  Yes, all of these things matter but to who? A more crucial question: Is anyone better off or happier for having come in contact with you? Was anyone inspired by their interaction with you?  Does anyone want to be a better version of themselves because they met you?    We are leaving an impact with every action we take, whether we realise it or not. Those actions have the potential to impact others for better or worse. It’s the thoughtful acknowledgement that encouraged someone to do or try something they might not have otherwise. The kind word that reaffirms someone’s faith in the goodness of humanity when they were having a bad day and needed it most. Small, thoughtful, kind gestures make a difference.

My dad always used to tell me to make sure people know you were here by leaving something in better shape than when we found it.  He did apply a get-out clause on the Camogie/hurling field, though; I had to make sure they knew I was there by making sure they never got the ball, and if they did, they regretted it….

Can our belief system inhibit our thinking

When we believe in something, we automatically think it’s a good thing. For example, I am considered to have a solid moral compass, never be unfaithful to my husband and highly loyal to my friends and people around me. This, I am sure most people would agree, is a good thing, and indeed it is when it comes to me and how people feel around me and about me. But there is another side to these, what I call quality, that I was unaware of until a trusted friend pointed it out. I processed his thoughts and realised that I was holding everyone to my high standards and judging them when they did not behave in a manner I thought was right. The truth of the matter was that it was none of my business how other people behave; when it does not involve me or someone I care about, I have no right to judge. When I made that adjustment in my thinking, I can’t put into words that amount of stress and negative energy that disappeared from my mind.

How can a life coach make you truly happy

The answer is they cant… nobody else can make you happy, truly happy; the utopia of happiness for most of us is reached when we self-actualise are comfortable have meaning and purpose in life.

A life coach can provide a safe, non-judgemental space, give you clarity of thought to see what is within you so that you can maximise your potential, but only you can control your own life at the end of the day.

I loved my job, correction. I thought I loved my job until one day, I realised I was not happy through a life coach’s assistance. I was not living my values; I did not really know what they were, but I knew what I did not value. After I left, I discovered the joy of owning my own life